Today, Marie and I are celebrating 10 years together. Every Cinco de Mayo, we head out for a nice long walk along the beach and follow it up with a delicious meal somewhere, recreating the time we spent together on our first date. It's our way of reconnecting to the initial flush of joy, connection and giddiness that we felt on that first evening together (minus the stylish but uncomfortable shoes and the usual first-date nerves).
Our anniversary time together is one of the rituals that keeps us tethered to our shared history and to what we want to keep alive in our relationship today. I'm not sure if our anniversary ritual is common or uncommon -- let me know your experience -- but it works for us.
Our anniversary got me thinking about wedding rituals and the ways that people incorporate what's meaningful to them into their special day. I imagine that we've all attended a wedding or two where there was some ritual element -- maybe a sand ceremony or unity candle -- that sort of felt contrived or out of place, given our knowledge of the couple. Don't get me wrong; if you both love the beach, then a sand ceremony is a great way to symbolize what matters to you. If it's just a token unity ritual for the sake of demonstrating the connection between you, then I'd suggest giving it a miss. Or, better yet, dig a little deeper to make it your own.Read More